I wear my heart...and my pasta sauce...on my sleeve

Sicilian women are known for being loud, emotional, and, well, zesty. I'm a little bit of each.

Every drop of my love, my tears, my joy—my passion for friendship and romance—goes into every meal I cook.

Sometimes, I'll be wearing a white shirt (dumb enough, I know) and the sauce will decide to bubble and erupt like lava, all over my sleeve or right where the shirt covers my boob. Sometimes I yell at the sauce and smack the lid so hard that the walls shake. But then I'll forgive it and doctor it up with some salt and pepper. I mean, how could you not unconditionally love a sauce made from delicious "liquid gold" olive oil with fresh garlic, chopped onions and red pepper flakes sizzling with the juiciest Campari tomatoes in a gorgeous, lush red frying pan? There is nothing...and I mean nothing...that can soothe me better than these simple, fresh ingredients that just seem to be making love on the electric stage of a stovetop.

And sharing a good pasta dish with people I love totally makes up for the stain on my boob.

Giving heaping bowls of pasta drizzled with sauce and garnished with herbs is a way to show my loved ones how much I really care about them; how much of myself I devote to every spoonful.

And although it's often a drag for many people, the act of cleaning up after the meal can sometimes be one of the happiest experiences for me, even when I'm alone in the kitchen and there's nothing left but plates and forks to be scraped, scrubbed and scoured.

While picking up the wine-stained napkins and washing plates after a party, I dissolve into the memory of laughter tickling the kitchen walls and the clanking of goblets during the few hours my friends gathered to celebrate a birthday, a girls' night in, or an evening with nothing else better to do than sit, eat, drink and chat about reality TV.

When I was a little girl, I always got so upset when everyone had to say goodbye at parties; I loved sharing food and ice cream cake and hugs with them. Warm bodies in chairs and crumbs on the table meant that life was being lived.

I hated being left alone after a party. I always wanted company. I still do. Not just to have somebody there, but to share a special connection with another human being. To do that is one of the most magical abilities we possess as a species. That's why I love having people like you here on my site. I feel like I'm sharing something with you; I'm connecting with you. I may not know who you are or what you look like, but that really doesn't matter. I feel like I'm making you feel warm and welcome and whole, the way I sometimes didn't feel when I was younger. For a long time, there was pain and drama and loneliness—a lot of which I created. Maybe I wanted to feel sorry for myself. Maybe I wanted people to know I was sad so they could comfort me and hug me and tell me everything would be okay. Regardless, I'm going to do the same for the people I love. Not because I'm the stereotypical "motherly" woman (alright, maybe a little bit), but because I'm a human being with a heart. Someone who loves people more than anything in the world.

The few seconds it takes to hug someone is worth more to me than the $12,000 limited edition wristwatch from Tiffany's that'll probably (no, definitely) last eons longer than a simple human embrace. But I don't care. Call me a nutcase, but I'll love 'ya till the point of tears.

Confessions of a Funky Foodie

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I should have been a fat kid. I mean, in my family, food has always been the solution to everyone’s problems. Got a headache? Oh, it’s because you didn’t eat enough. Nausea? A little food will make the tummy ache go away. Bad day? Shut up and smooth it over with some pasta. At least that’s what Grandma always says.

In other families, rest, a good laugh, a game of cards or some ibuprofen could do the trick. In my family, the answer is dinner, and of course, wine. Bada bing, bada boom.

This is every staunch nutritionist’s nightmare—the “cause of obesity;” the reason America is losing “the battle of the bulge.” Is this true? Yeah, probably.

But oddly enough, nobody in my immediate family is overweight. My 50-year-old aunt can eat an entire package of cookies in one sitting and still weigh 110 lbs. My 22-year-old sister can eat three trays of hot wings and still fit into the same Barbie-sized clothes she wore in the fifth grade. If I ate like that, my butt would bloom like a Chia Pet. Fuh-fuh-fuh-fatass!

Every morning on those wake-up news shows, I see dieticians shaking their heads and wagging their fingers at “fat America.” But I’d like to see how many barbeque chicken wings these so-called experts can scarf when nobody’s looking.

As a certified personal trainer and longtime health nut/fitness buff (surprising, right?), I, too, know the importance of portion control and healthy eating habits. And I’ll share them with you from now until I die. But I do cheat once in a while. Alright, more than once in a while.

And yes, sometimes I even serenade my food. It helps make the meal taste better.

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The other day, I burned my sweet potato fries (of course it was an accident). But I didn’t want them to feel insulted, so I sang this song. And then this song. And then this song.

If you think I’m a fatty, you can suck my chocolate-covered coffee beans.

Move over, Cinderella: redefining the Glass Slipper

One afternoon while at the dollar store, after trudging past the knockoff Oreos, bins of expired mascara and leftover Christmas decorations, I somehow found the party aisle. There's something about paper hats, kazoos, confetti and festive drink napkins that turns me into a giddy five-year-old and makes my troubles melt like icing on a hot cake.

Then I turned around, and there it was: the huge display of wedding stuff: everything from bobble-head brides and grooms to polyester rose bouquets and plastic toasting goblets--a smorgasbord of cheap inanimate objects. Yuck.

And that was when, still in the wedding section, I discovered a pack of plastic glass slippers. I doubt they were intended for people like me to place them around my apartment, wishing that someday, like Cinderella, the right guy would slip the right shoe on my foot.

Ever feel like that? Ever get trapped in the fantasy of a fairy tale, wishing and hoping and dreaming?

Well, I did. And I decided to buy two packs of the glass slipper party favors and give them to my single female friends.

Because to me, the glass slipper represents a few amazing things that I wish for you and all the women in the world.

Instead of sending you the glass slipper as a promise that you'll find the right guy right away (if you're looking), I send you this glass slipper because I want you to know that your foot is totally worth it.

You are beautiful, talented, independent, strong, smart and pretty damn amazing. You are so important in the world not because of what you look like or what you do, but simply because you are able to circulate blood through your veins. You are important because you exist. Period.

Life is full of broken relationships, broken home, broken fingernails and, dare I say it, broken hearts. Yes, this is true. But I know in MY heart that if you really want a lasting, true relationship, you will absolutely find one.

First, remember one thing. This might sound weird, but the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. If you don't believe you're the best thing since red wine, nobody else will. Do you really expect someone else to show the world how great you are? You've got to do it yourself. But you've got to do it with class and taste.

Just hold tight to this little slipper and remember the following things:

1. The glass slipper is transparent; you can see right through it. May you be allowed to see through people, especially men, who come into your lives. May you know for sure if a person is genuine and full of love. May you also be transparent: let people see who you are on the inside. Don't go walking around butt naked, and don't go around singing your phone number to the tune of "867-5309." My definition of being transparent is being the genuine person you are inside and not just the gorgeous diva you are on the outside. When you're transparent, theres no way you can ever be fake; when you're transparent, you are not embarrassed or afraid to let people see you for who you are.

2. The glass slipper is breakable; be careful and tread lightly on the path of life. Don't put too much weight (ahem...STRESS!) on your feet. Don't step hard on anything or anyone, because doing so will only cause YOU pain.

3. The glass slipper fits you and only you. Enjoy it! It was custom-made for you with the wand of your loving, compassionate Fairy Godmother. Another woman (or man...hey, anything's possible) can try to squeeze into or walk in your shoe. But her (his) feet won't stand a chance. Nobody's foot fits into YOUR shoe the way YOUR foot does. You've got to walk in it. Others don't. Interpret this the way you want, but think in terms of your life, your dreams and your hopes of finding true love in a cynical, chaotic world. There are a lot of negative, jealous brats in this world who will tell you your dreams are far-fetched and impossible. It's much easier when you wish these people well and weed them out of your life.

4. No matter what happens, you will always have the other slipper. These same negative, jealous brats who can't fit into the slipper will try to shatter it so you can't try it on, either. But just remember, you have the other slipper right in your pocket. The other slipper is your unique personality, your inner beauty and your love. THAT slipper is unbreakable. Let the slipper I'm sending you be a symbol of the other slipper--the one you'll never break.

So, despite the nasty people in the world, YOU be the graceful one. Defy them with your kindness, intelligence and humor. Never silence or censor your emotions. If you do, your insides will erupt.

Sing out loud, even to the occasional spider dangling from your ceiling if theres no one else around. Don't be afraid of tripping and falling down the stairs when you enter the ballroom. Be aware of how great your feet look in the shoes.

Don't obsess about what your heart desires. Just trust that in time, you will receive it.

Because, my dear girl, you work your own magic just by being yourself. Just by working the runway; by strutting your stuff.

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Believe in yourself; trust your bliss

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My 80-year-old grandfather does sets and sets of bench presses in his basement while listening to my mother’s old disco records. His favorite song? “Bad Luck” (1974) by Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes. Why? Because he always loses too much money at the casino.

I could picture my mother dancing to this same song at a club in the ‘70s. I imagine her in platform shoes, spinning on the shiny, smooth floor, watching the warm colored lights whirl around her as she glides between dance partners. The magical feeling dwindles when the man who will one day be my father cuts in and starts to critique her dance moves. There he is—a short, skinny 17-year-old with a tequila sunrise in one hand and a cigarette in the other, telling Ma, then 21, how to do the Hustle. Never mind the song. He’s the dude, she says, who brought her bad luck.

“I only married him for his dancing feet,” she always says, rolling her eyes.

Somebody should have warned my mother that the lack of good judgment is often disguised as bad luck. My philosophy? Never trust a man with good dancing feet. He’ll step all over your heart.

I was only five when my parents divorced, and my sister was two and a half. My dad didn’t want to be married anymore and decided to be with other ladies. Instead of despising my dad for leaving this beautiful, wonderful woman who brought me into the world, I always wondered what my mother thought about herself when he left. Did she hate herself? Did she feel like a failure because the marriage didn’t work? Did she try to improve herself to win him back? I never really asked her. Maybe I should. Maybe I shouldn’t.

I believe women in her situation ask themselves again and again what they did to break the union. “What have I done wrong? What could I have done differently? Is there something wrong with me?” But often, they fail to get an answer. So, they start to hate themselves and/or the entire male species. Some women think the breakup (followed by Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive”) will make them stronger and more powerful single women. Others might sing man-bashing songs, slash tires and become bitter human beings. Many of them stay that way for a lifetime. Others become depressed and listless forever, swearing off any type of relationship. They’re petrified to trust anyone ever again.

I didn’t want to wind up sad and heartbroken like Mom, so I refused to date anyone. For years. And when I did pursue guys, I always gave up or turned 'em down, fearing there’d always be some bitch who’d be prettier, thinner, smarter, sexier (and less of a cornball) than me to shut me down and take my place. She’d win, I’d lose. Done.

I've always had this vision of the Wicked Witch of the West swirling the air with smoke: “Surrender, Holly. You’re doomed. And P.S. Guys don’t like butt-cheek birthmarks.”

Oy. I think half the battle here is to believe we’re lovely and worthy of love instead of being too afraid to accept it. It’s like the fear I always had of holding a beautiful piece of glass; I always thought I’d drop it and cause it to shatter in a zillion shards. I think we’re afraid we don’t deserve good in our lives. I also think we’re afraid of the pain of getting cut by this glass—of breaking down.

I know we've all heard that pain is necessary for growth. But I'm going to take a stand today and risk getting laughed at; I'm going to admit that JOY is necessary for growth, too. If we live in joy by appreciating what we have, there's no doubt that we'll become stronger and more beautiful. We have to nurture ourselves with joy. This means the first relationship you’ve got to work on is the one with yourself, lady. This is something I, too, must work on every day. Just because I’m giving you the advice doesn’t mean I always do the right thing. We’re all works in progress.

And that's okay. What’s wrong with our few little foibles? Do they not make us who we are? Do they not make us memorable and unique?

I have to keep asking myself this question again and again. Especially when I consider my acne scars, the little bit of cellulite on my ass, my gnawed cuticles, my ultra-flat feet that are callused from all my years of pounding the pavement and hitting the treadmill...the way my hips sometimes remind me of monster truck tires…the weird, scratchy and somewhat unfeminine sound of my voice being played back on an audio recorder and the sound of my right leg that clicks every time I stand up. Alright, I make myself sound a whole lot worse than I am. And maybe that’s half the problem.

I’ve always been an old soul who has the uncanny ability to act like a six–year-old. But I’ve always felt awkward around girls my own age; never comfortable in my skin. I’ve always wished I could be like others and fit into society. But I just can’t.

Some girls can stay out till 4am taking Jello shots (courtesy of the guys at some hip nightclub in Vegas) and still look like airbrushed supermodels…even after hours of sweating and partying and boozing until their livers start to scream. Some girls can count every calorie and avoid every piece of chocolate and look at you as if they therefore deserve the freakin’ Nobel Prize.

Some girls who can bust their butts in the gym for three hours at a time and go back a second time that same day for “an even better workout.” Some girls measure exactly one teaspoon of olive oil when they’re cooking and make certain to keep every dish under 200 calories.

Sorry. I can’t. Not anymore. I’ve been there, done that. And frankly, I’m tired of the BS. I’m tired of beating myself up and punishing myself whenever I “screw up” according to society’s standards. And I refuse to sit in a corner where I can shut up and sulk just because I can’t meet the public’s expectations of how a woman should look, speak and act.

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Regardless of what other people say to you and regardless of how they make you feel, know that I think you're wonderful. Look in the mirror and say to yourself, "I can't stand how fabulous I am!" Say it every day. And you will start to believe it. Trust me.

See, I may not always feel 100 percent confident in everything I do. I'm human. I fall down, skin my knees and bleed. But I get up and put on a bandage. The best way for me to help heal myself is to help other people like you. The greatest reward for me is to make other women feel like they’re worth something…something much more than what they think they're worth. It gives me a reason to keep on doing what I’m doing.

I'd like to finish by saying that you must trust. Trust that you are attracting the right people into your life. That these people are making you healthy and whole. That these people are going to be there for you when you need them and even when you don't. That these people will tell you the truth, as brutal as it may be, then serve as your vertibrae to hold you up during the tough times. These people will stay with you. Yes, I believe in heartache and loss. I also believe in true happiness. So, my dear, my advice to you (and me) is to shut up and follow your bliss. Follow what self-help guru Louise L. Hay calls "your inner ding"—your gut. Don't listen to the negative people who cause you pain by telling you awful things. You deserve so much love and so much joy today and every day.

And no, I'm not a walking Hallmark card. I'm a realist who believes in real love and real joy. So there. Kiss my bliss.

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Kindness, compassion and miracles: what I learned at the "I Can Do It!" 2011 Conference

I'm so blessed to have attended the 2011 "I Can Do It!®" Conference at the Jacob Javits Convention Center in Manhattan. I was honored to be surrounded by approximately 3000 people who are determined to live a beautiful, joyful life.

I was thrilled to meet Louise Hay, a pioneer of the self-help movement who wrote the international bestseller "You Can Heal Your Life." Louise will be turning 85 in a few weeks. She looks absolutely stunning, and her smile alone could power up the Manhattan skyline. I know in my heart that the love Louise has for herself and others—the kindness she has shown millions of people—certainly has kept her in wonderful condition.

"I trust life and I trust me. Because I know I'm fabulous and amazing," said Louise at the start of the conference. She added, "Decide what it is you want from the day. The way you start your day is the way you're going to finish your day. So start your day on a positive note."

About Louise Hay

It would be an understatement to say that Louise's life didn't start off on a positive note. Born into poverty and abused by her stepfather, she was raped at age five by a neighbor and ran away from home as a teenager. She dropped out of high school at 15, had a child at age 16, and gave it up for adoption. Years later, after moving to Chicago and working as a model, she married an Englishman, who after 14 years of marriage, left her for another woman. Louise was distraught. In the late 1970s, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer, which she attributes to the shame and resentment she held onto years after being sexually abused (Source: "You Can Heal Your Life," 1984).

But Louise refused to let cancer drag her down. She immediately took action to improve not only her physical health (via various natural remedies and holistic therapies), but also to improve her way of thinking. Her return to complete health—physically, emotionally and spiritually—prompted her to teach, counsel, and mentor others to do the same. Louise Hay started Hay House publishing company, which has become hugely successful and praised immensely.

At each "I Can Do It!®" motivational conference, Louise welcomes Hay House friends and authors Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Doreen Virtue, Fabrizio Mancini and others to show all of us that we can indeed have everything it takes within ourselves to overcome challenges, and ultimately, create a spectacular life.

At the conference, my personal favorite keynote speakers were Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Fabrizio Mancini and Doreen Virtue.

I am going to share my notes from the conference with you by listing the key points from my two favorite lectures. I would like to start with the teachings of Dr. Dyer, who reminds all of us that kindness is the antidote to several of life's problems.

Dr. Wayne Dyer: The Art of Manifestation

Wayne Dyer urges us to "walk down a different street" - to be positive, compassionate human beings in a world of cynicism and negativity.

• An act of kindness a day can prevent you from feeling depressed by altering your levels of a feel-good brain chemical called serotonin. Dyer said, "After you do something nice for someone else, your serotonin level is just as high as the person who also received [what you've given them]."

• Meditation prevents violence. "The Dalai Lama said that if we could take every child at the age of five and have them meditate one hour a week on compassion, that we could eliminate all violence on our planet," said Dyer.

• We aren't just loving beings; we ARE love. If we realized that, we could all achieve our full potential as humans.

• " You don't have to be sick to get better. Getting better means transcending ordinary. It's living the truth of Jesus: 'even the least among you can do all that I have done, and even greater things'. We are divine."

• "The physical body is a total illusion. Who you are is birthless, deathless, changeless, continuing to occupy transient dust. We are extraordinary human beings having a temporary human experience."

• "If you want to elevate your life, you must change your concept of yourself...everything that you believe to be true about yourself and what is possible for you. You must have the expectation in order to receive what you desire or who you desire to be. You are not raised to believe you are a Divine Being, but you do have a higher self. Our higher self is perfect, omniscient, and almighty."

Dr. Dyer's 5 principles to manifesting what you desire:

1. Imagination - This is a big one for all of you who have dreams but think it's foolish to imagine. Actually, according to Dyer, "You must imagine it to create it. You must ignore all the senses. You must be willing to walk down a different street."

2. Stop criticism toward any of God's children. Even if you're not religious or use a different word for "God," Dyer stressed that "all living creatures must cease to feel fear in your presence."

3. Assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled - You have to be able to feel what you want to attract it into your life. "That which you feel yourself to be, you are. Live in the feeling of the one you want to be and that you shall be. Reprogram the subconscious mind and the subconscious will react," said Dyer.

4. Attention- "What kind of attention do you place on things people say?", asked Dyer. Do you listen to the negativity of others? If so, look within and remind yourself that you are love.

5. Bedtime Reflection. Use the last five minutes of your day to program your subconscious mind. "Before you go to bed, think about, reflect upon and feel the positive things you want to manifest in your life. Allow receiving to feel natural to you," said Dyer.

Marianne Williamson: A Course in Weight Loss

Marianne Williamson is one of my favorite speakers in the world. She's passionate, powerful, witty and wise. I also noticed that her principles about weight loss apply to so many different areas of life - practically all areas of life. Here are the highlights from her speech:

• Believe in Miracles. When miracles do not occur, something has gone wrong. Expect miracles every day. Look for them. Appreciate them. "We were all and are coded for perfection. The problem is that we lack faith that this is true. Miracles arise from conviction," said Williamson.

• When in doubt or pain, we must surrender to a Higher Power, whatever you may call it. "My mortal mind can do so much, but my mortal mind cannot do everything," she explained.

• Excess weight is a wall between the overweight person and others. Williamson said, "You create what you defend against. When you fear pain, you subconsciously create pain along the way. Whatever we do in a self-sabotaging way is something that's there because we were wounded. It's time to face it: a divine healer lies within us."

• Give yourself a break. Have compassion for others, but have compassion for yourself, too. "If you won't fold your own arms in compassion of yourself, you will not allow the power of the universe to feel compassion for you. Look at the conditions of your life. What's not working? We fail to look deeply within ourselves due to fear. The power of infinite love does for us what we cannot do for ourselves," she said.

• Be a teacher to others. Williamson talked about her fear of airplane takeoffs. She described a defining moment in her life where she abandoned all fear. This was the time she sat on an airplane next to a little boy who had been traveling solo. The little boy was so afraid of takeoffs, just like Williamson. But by talking the child through takeoff and holding his hand, she says she never feared another takeoff again. The point of this story is that you don't have to be perfect to teach something to another person. By counseling and teaching others, you counsel and teach yourself. Williamson said, "Love can override compulsive synapses. This is a miracle. Be so involved with the love of someone else and love will override fear."

• Don't be afraid to follow your dream to serve others and change the world. Williamson emphasized the following: "You are the faucet. You are not the water. It's about shining the light to help others. It's not just about you. Your work is your ministry. Narcissistic fear can't exist when you base your life on service."

So please, take these lecture points and digest them. Use them to improve your life. If you attended the conference and would like to add additional notes, please do so in the comments section below. That would be fabulous!

Love and Light!

Holly

Pictured: Louise Hay (left) and Holly

Recovering Hearts: Where I Found God (and Leslie)

Souvenirs are overrated. And they sure don't last forever. Most of them end up smashed to smithereens in your suitcase by the time you get home. But the sweet, tender, endearing, inspiring people you meet in your travels can remain in your memory for the rest of your life. The advice from these people, who I like to call angels, can help keep you whole when you feel like you're falling apart.

I recently went on an eight-day trip to Provincetown, Massachusetts with my dear friend Ryan. If you didn't know, Provincetown is a very artsy community. It's also a primarily gay and lesbian community. As a (very) heterosexual female who drools over guys (guilty!), you'd think I'd feel so out of place. Not even for one second. I actually felt more creatively inspired and at peace in P-Town than I've felt anywhere else. Why? Well, yes, because of the fabulous art galleries, beaches and bed & breakfasts. But more so because of one woman with a radiant soul who seems as though she's been your best friend all your life.

Two extremely creative people always thinking of new projects and ideas, Ryan and I were desperate for inspiration. So, while Ryan was taking a nap, I Googled "inspirational shop" near the place we were staying, and "Recovering Hearts" came up in the search. The next day, we figured we'd take a walk, since the name of the shop sounded like something that would heal and inspire us: the perfect remedy for two bohemian entrepreneurs in search of love, abundance and success.

Recovering Hearts is THE sanctuary Ryan and I had searched for, complete with soul-soothing music, wind chimes, stones, crystals, stained-glass windows and some of the most beautiful inspirational books to help people heal their heartbreaks, addictions, abuse, physical illnesses and self-esteem problems. If I could open up an inspirational shop myself, this would be it. And I couldn't find one clichéd self-help book in the whole place; every single book on every single shelf seemed to have been hand-selected and written entirely from the heart; no B.S.

This place is all about truth; being honest with yourself about what you want to heal and what you'd like to accomplish in this crazy little thing called life.

As Ryan and I browsed the bookshelves, swooning over the adorable angel trinkets, candles and other beautiful metaphysical merchandise, a woman with blue eyes and a warm, gentle smile greeted us from behind the register. Although there were other customers in the store, she specifically walked over to us and introduced herself. Her name? Leslie. She owns the shop.

After a brief conversation, she picked two postcards from the rack, smiled and handed one to me and one to Ryan - each a different card. Mine read, "She who looks outside, dreams. She who looks inside, awakens."~Jung.

At that moment I could feel my whole body become warm and completely at peace. Leslie didn't need to say much; I knew this woman understood me at first glance, and even more so after we'd chatted for a few minutes. What I'd realized is that I had lived a lot of my life looking for outside approval instead of letting my creative, innermost self guide me. I'd been so afraid, for example, that others would think my hopes and ideas for a successful, peaceful lifestyle were unattainable and ridiculous. I'd been so scared to trust my inner guidance, thinking I'd make a mistake and, as a result, never trust myself again. Have you been there? I think a lot of us have. I think we're on this earth to learn lessons along the way.

After chatting with Leslie, I immediately knew something had changed in me; that I was no longer afraid to make a mistake; that although I am not perfect, I am extremely intuitive, powerful, creative and wise - I have the ability to live a great life. I am truly beautiful on the inside. I'm proud of myself, but in a humble way, if that makes sense.

Leslie reinforced that fear is an illusion; it's just an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. Ever hear of that one before? We are much so more powerful than the things that scare us. We cannot control all of the circumstances in our lives, but we do have the power to prevent these situations from controlling us. How will we resist fear? By keeping a positive attitude, taking baby steps with each endeavor, knowing that we're ultimately going to succeed no matter what (even if we think we've "failed"), and acknowledging the spiritual guides (gut feelings, signs, and "Earth Angels" like Leslie!) placed before us along our journey.

Interestingly enough, the name "Leslie" means "Holly Garden." In the few days I spent in and out of her store, she's certainly helped my soul to blossom.

Forever grateful,

Holly